He's Just Not That Into You
That's the title of an Oprah Winfrey show I watched about an hour ago. It's also the title of a book by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (ex-writers of Sex and the City) (Oh, and only the guy was being interviewed on Oprah, wonder why.. Haa.).
I always enjoy watching Oprah Winfey, for I find that the issues she discusses are quite relevant and rather informative. Now that our local network is showing it again, I will watch the show whenever I am home.
In this particular show, the author tried to help answer some of the questions that women have - Basically, to find out if the guy whom the lady is interested in, is interested in her as well. Now, it turns out that more often than not, any reply or action by the guy that is not in the level of an outright Yes, means that nope, he's not interested. Find that quite interesting. Now, I wonder if there is a cultural factor involved here. The Caucasians are generally known to be more direct and forth-coming, hence I guess it's often a Yes or No, nothing in between. Asians, on the other hand, are bit more reserved. Hence, I wonder for Asian men, is there a Maybe? Or are all men basically the same? It's always a black and white, and never grey?
At the end of the show, Oprah quoted from a page - 10 advices for the women. One of them I think is well... quite a good advice. It says that one should not bother to date a guy whom doesn't ask you out first, for it really means that he's not very interested. It had me thinking for a while (including reflecting on myown experiences! Haa), and I can't agree more. In this age,many people say that women and men are equals, that the females have every right to ask the guy out etc etc... I wonder, what's the point of the girl taking the initiative? If the guy is really interested, he should have enough interest to ask!
It's really quite interesting and funny.. this whole relationships stuff. There are zillion and one books out in the market trying to provide answers. Do you read them? If you do read them, can you apply what you have learnt in them. Aren't there too many generalisations? Everyone is unique. Does a Yes from A means the same Yes from B? I doubt so. So sad to say, we have to continue to grope in the dark when it comes to finding answers. Hopefully such books can help provide a little light, but I guess the most important thing is still be true to your own thoughts and feelings. Yeah?
I always enjoy watching Oprah Winfey, for I find that the issues she discusses are quite relevant and rather informative. Now that our local network is showing it again, I will watch the show whenever I am home.
In this particular show, the author tried to help answer some of the questions that women have - Basically, to find out if the guy whom the lady is interested in, is interested in her as well. Now, it turns out that more often than not, any reply or action by the guy that is not in the level of an outright Yes, means that nope, he's not interested. Find that quite interesting. Now, I wonder if there is a cultural factor involved here. The Caucasians are generally known to be more direct and forth-coming, hence I guess it's often a Yes or No, nothing in between. Asians, on the other hand, are bit more reserved. Hence, I wonder for Asian men, is there a Maybe? Or are all men basically the same? It's always a black and white, and never grey?
At the end of the show, Oprah quoted from a page - 10 advices for the women. One of them I think is well... quite a good advice. It says that one should not bother to date a guy whom doesn't ask you out first, for it really means that he's not very interested. It had me thinking for a while (including reflecting on myown experiences! Haa), and I can't agree more. In this age,many people say that women and men are equals, that the females have every right to ask the guy out etc etc... I wonder, what's the point of the girl taking the initiative? If the guy is really interested, he should have enough interest to ask!
It's really quite interesting and funny.. this whole relationships stuff. There are zillion and one books out in the market trying to provide answers. Do you read them? If you do read them, can you apply what you have learnt in them. Aren't there too many generalisations? Everyone is unique. Does a Yes from A means the same Yes from B? I doubt so. So sad to say, we have to continue to grope in the dark when it comes to finding answers. Hopefully such books can help provide a little light, but I guess the most important thing is still be true to your own thoughts and feelings. Yeah?
posted by Nia at
12:16 AM
1 Comments:
Yeah! Nilian, I watched that Oprah episode too!! I reckon with guys, it's clear-cut most (if not all) of the time --they operate on duality mode: if they like a girl enough, they'll take action; if not, it just means he's just not that into her! :P heh, call me old-fashioned if you like, I think should always let the guy make the first move! well, at least then, you can at least be sure he likes you enough! :P
-mo
p/s: I should get hold of that book, I think it'll make quite an interesting read.
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